Social Skills



The 1st Year 

Social development is the interaction between your child and the people around him or her.

Baby will establish eye contact with you as early as a few days after birth. During interaction, baby will appear curious and smile, even with strangers.

From approximately seven months, babies may become withdrawn and nervous when unfamiliar people are around, and may react by crying when strangers attempt to carry or talk to them.

The 2nd Year 

Your toddler will show interest in playing with other children but still prefers solo play, and to be near mum, dad, or other familiar adults.

Toddler will try to cooperate during play and may begin to play the same activities with other children and start interacting with peers using gestures.

During this time, your toddler may become egocentric. This stems from the toddler’s awareness of his or her ability to affect the environment. For example, your toddler may insist on going for a walk immediately even if you promise to go for a walk at a later time.

The 3rd Year 

Your child will begin to engage in more pretend or make-believe play involving people and objects, as he or she begins to act out meaningful sequences to events (e.g. birthday party).

The toddler will begin to enjoy playing with peers and will be able to take turns in interactive games such as passing the parcel.

By 3 years old, your toddler will begin to understand and obey simple rules set.

Your toddlers will gain more confidence, and hence can separate more easily from you in familiar surroundings.

The 4th Year 

At this age, your child will learn to understand, respect and obey simple instructions given by authority figures.

Your child will learn to greet people politely with eye contact and a friendly smile. With a greater attention span, your child can now be taught to wait quietly and patiently in group games and to share toys.

Having gained more experience from interactions with peers, your child will also learn to move from one activity to the next in group activities.

The 5th Year 

Your child is now confident enough to perform activities in the presence of, or when led by an unfamiliar person.

When rules are set and implemented consistently, you will find that your child is able to comply with the rules. For example, if the rule is that playtime ends daily at a certain time and all the toys are to be placed in their assigned place, your child will begin to understand and comply with the instruction. Isn’t that nice?

Regardless of whether an authority figure is around, your child is now able to follow the rules set prior to any game, and cooperate in the game with his group of 4 to 5 peers.

Growing independence and creativity will see your child create and try out new activities. Yet when your child is in doubt, he or she will request for help when and where appropriate.

The 6th Year 

Socially, your child is flexible enough to adjust his or her behaviour to changing situations.

Children at this age will want to decide their own activities and work independently whenever they can.

By now, your child has all the socially appropriate behaviours required to be a team player, such as maintaining silence when he has to and sharing.

Your child is now capable of displaying good sportsmanship (if he or she wants to) when he or she loses a game. If taught, your child will also learn about apologizing and learn not to scream inappropriately.